The first trimester of pregnancy can be so brutal. Here’s what it's like:
- NAUSEA - The first trimester brings on a whole range of morning (all-day) sickness. It’s different for everyone. The spectrum goes from a one (nonexistent) all the way to a ten (needing to be hospitalized.) It can last the entire pregnancy, but for many, it’s gone after a few weeks. But ohhhh those are some long weeks. This is the one time in life that I would honestly recommend most food restrictions go out the window: you’ve got to eat whatever you can keep down, and it might not be nutritionally ideal. STILL try your best to stay away from fast food and junk food, but don’t feel too bad if you break some rules. While many think of the entire pregnancy as a craving-fest, that’s actually not the case. I was actually wishing for cravings during that time, because the majority of foods sounded disgusting to me. My diet consisted of anything sour, plain, and cold, like green apples, ice, lemonade, grapes, and greek yogurt. I also recall being okay with salty crackers and chips. I could not STAND the smell of cooking meat or vegetables, (much less eat any of that), which is terrible because I knew I was missing out on a lot of nutrients. In any case, the cravings will eventually come (in all likelihood), but at first, not necessarily.
- NO BUMP - I couldn’t believe how long it took for me to get a bump. I didn’t realize that most people will not have a visible pregnancy belly until about halfway through the second trimester. It’s actually frustrating to be feeling all sorts of pregnancy symptoms but not seeing any sign of it. And without others knowing that you're pregnant, you're obviously not going to experience the same level of sympathy or understanding that people might offer you if they were aware (like people letting you cut them in line at the grocery store, or offering to carry things for you , etc). I was so happy and relieved when my belly finally started to grow, and it didn’t happen until way after first trimester was over.
- SECRECY - Many people choose to weight many weeks or months into the pregnancy to share the news with friends and family. It is really hard to keep in such an exciting announcement - especially with a first baby. But, the wait is worth it, because it definitely makes it more fun once the sharing finally begins.
- CONFUSION - I was so confused about healthcare when I first realized I was pregnant. I didn’t know which doctor I wanted to go to (or the fact that I would eventually switch to a midwife and birthing center), I had some bad experiences at clinics with doctors I didn’t like, and I felt stressed out about figuring out where I would deliver the baby and all the other logistics that go with it. It’s a part of the process that just has to be done, and if you’re a first-time mom, don’t worry, you’ll figure it out and you’ll be much more prepared the next time around.
- FATIGUE - I felt like a lazy couch potato for much of my first trimester. SometimesI found the energy to push myself to move, get work done, and work out, but most of the time I just wanted to sleep and watch movies because even my mind was tired. Don’t worry - eventually, you will have an amazing spike in energy and you will be more than ready for baby to show up.
HOW TO POWER THROUGH IT
Now that I’ve been through it, here’s the advice I would give my sleepy, nauseous, confused first-trimester self:
- BE PATIENT - It gets better. You can handle a few weeks of what is arguably the most challenging part of the pregnancy.
- PRACTICE GRATITUDE - The first trimester is exciting, but it;s also the most emotionally uneasy part of the pregnancy because the pregnancy is in its delicate early stage, still considered high risk. Be grateful for that nausea or other uncomfortable symptoms that you experience every day, because it means that your body is adjusting and learning to carry a life within — a gift that should not be taken for granted.
- TAKE IT EASY - I remember feeling like I wasn’t working out enough, or like I should push myself harder. The reality is that it actually becomes easier to workout when the nausea subsides later on in second and third trimester, and you’ll have plenty of time to exercise then, so just rest and relax or stick with gentle movements like stretching or walking in trimester 1 if that’s all you feel like doing.
- READ AND STUDY - First trimester is the perfect time to start picking up books, reading articles, and getting to know all about the process of pregnancy and childbirth so that you can prepare yourself for what’s to come. Don’t forget to seek multiple opinions and sources on all topics. There is a lot of really outdated information still being circulated, and there are many different approaches to healthcare and wellness during this time, so be sure that you dig deep to find sources that you truly connect with.
- BE PROUD OF YOURSELF - It takes a lot of work to grow a tiny human, and you are doing a wonderful thing.